Safety is the foundation of change…..

The very first thing that has to occur for you to heal from a toxic/abusive/or narcissistic relationships is for your body to feel safe. Once you’ve reached a place of safety with no contact from them, then you can begin the process of healing your mind and your nervous system.

Safety cannot be built on pressure and deadlines, you go at your own pace and with consistency, gentleness and care for yourself whilst you are healing, you will begin to see little changes in the way you react to different stimuli.

Right now your nervous system is locked in a loop that won’t allow you to leave it, so we must take it slowly with no pressure. you’re not being pushed, you’re not being told what to do, you only do what continues to feel comfortable for you.

Small steps to practice could include;-

• making yourself a cuppa and sitting reading a book for a while.

• listening to some soothing music and look out the window at the trees swaying in the wind.

• making some healthy lunch for yourself.

• practise some deep breathing exercises.

• do some sort of exercise, walking, dancing, yoga

• start to write a journal of your thoughts and feeling

What felt impossible yesterday will begin to feel manageable soon, just take it slow. You don’t heal by demanding more of yourself, you heal by accepting where you’re at right now and listening to your body, if it begins to feel overwhelming then you stop. just ask yourself in the moment “what feels safe for you right now?”